049: How to Overcome the Biggest Fear That Holds You Back! (It’s called Allodoxaphobia!)

What would you say is the number one reason why people don’t set and achieve bigger goals or play a bigger game in life?

Hey everyone, it’s Lisa J. here and welcome to another Build Your Belief Podcast and YouTube Show.

So, according to research there’s a reason why we don’t play a bigger game in life and it’s called Allodoxaphobia. That’s a fancy word in behavioral psychology, Allodoxaphobia, for the fear of other people’s opinion. So, another way to say Allodoxaphobia if FOOPO: Fear of other people’s opinion.

Isn’t it amazing how you and I, we could be so on fire about a goal, or a decision, an intention, a dream, and we set that intention, we can even create a business plan, we get started, and then one other person’s opinion can knock us out of the game, or steal our joy, or lower our expectation. It’s crazy that we do that, especially when you realize that the definition, the very definition of opinion is one’s judgment not based on fact or knowledge. It’s not even based on fact or knowledge, other people’s opinions, so it’s not even logical that we allow opinions to deflate us, or to change our goals, or to take anything away from our drive.

But we do this because this problem and this solution has nothing to do with logic, it has everything to do with belief. And if you believe that you get your worthiness, your wisdom, or your acknowledgment outside of yourself then you will forever suffer from Allodoxaphobia. But when you start shifting this belief that your worthiness, your—everything about you, your acknowledgment, your wisdom, your drive, comes from within, then you will never be the victim of other people’s opinion.

But this takes time to work this out, listening to that voice of inner wisdom, or intuition, of just the knowing.

You got to be willing to put your cell phone aside, put your workload aside, turn that T.V. off and spend time alone, in solitude, meditating, listening to that inner voice of wisdom, listening to that voice.

But when you listen to that voice, it’s just like working out a muscle, that voice gets stronger, the intuition is stronger, your inner wisdom expands, but you got to take the time to tap into it and listen to that inner voice.

And when you do you will have the boldness to say when someone voices their opinion, you will say, “Wow, thanks for sharing that, I’ll think about.”

Or you will say, “Hmm, thanks for sharing, I know you care about me, but I’ve got a gut feeling about this and I’m going for it.”

And you will never allow another person’s opinion to alter your drive, your wisdom, your intention, what you want to create in life.

I wish that for you, my friend.

So, make it a great week and we will see you on the next Build Your Belief Show. Bye for now everyone!